Welp.

[awesomesprout]

So my former boss responded to Loren's last e-mail and it was pretty obvious she was missing the point altogether. Which is exactly what I told Loren she would do.

So I wrote the say all be all of e-mails to end it once and for all.



Her response to Loren's e-mail:

Loren,

I'm sorry you disapprove- but it was something which had to be
done. The "lacky" who told her oversees my company, and is
completely responsible for all of my hiring and firing.

I don't need people to kiss my ass. But I do need people who
are positive in my company. This is a rough job and a small
company, and one person who consistently focuses on the negative
makes it difficult for everyone. I need team players.

I also need friends who understand that because she was your
girlfriend, she got more leeway than I would have given anyone
else. But even with the leeway, I had to make the tough
decisions. I'm disappointed that rather than focus your energy
on making it better and brighter for your girl, you are taking
out your energy on me.

I wish you well.

(former boss)



My response:

Hi (former boss).

I'm sending this in hopes to clarify a few things for you so that maybe in the future better decisions can be made.

From reading your responses I don't think you're getting the point as to why Loren is saying the things that he's saying.

It isn't about me. None of what Loren was talking about had anything to do with me. It's about the fact that you let someone go from their job 3 - 4 days before Christmas. Even though you stated that it was to give me more time to seek employment.

I don't know why you'd think that ANYONE is hiring the last 2 weeks of the year. While in your mind what you thought you were doing was a helpful thing. In actuality, it did more harm than good.

I'm going to tell you the position I'm in, so that hopefully you'll never do this to anyone else.

Finding out that I've lost my job 4 days before Christmas was like finding out a family member died. You REALLY could have waited until after the holidays.

Simply because at this point, all I'm going to be doing is thinking about the fact that I no longer have a job. That means all my focus which would have normally been spent on my family and friends celebrating the one time of year I actually enjoy is now diverted to stressing about paying rent.

Also, it wasn't like you were losing money in the next 2 weeks that made this such an urgent matter. I wasn't working. The business was supposedly closed. I mean imagine if your boss called you on your vacation right before one of the biggest holidays of the year and told you you were fired. Kinda sucks, right?

I don't know if (employee who fired me) passed on my response to her calling me and waking me up to tell me I'd lost my job. And how I feel about the way I've been treated at your company.

But leeway or not, I do feel like I was treated unfairly. In order to make someone a team player, you have to make them feel like they're actually part of the team. Not constantly making decisions that will ultimately affect them while they aren't there and then when they do return stating, " Here's what we decided. Deal. "

If you want to know why I wasn't positive all the time, even though it doesn't really matter at this point anyway. But maybe you can use it as an example for the future.

It's because I NEVER felt included in anything. When you guys were looking at office space you all sat at the table talking about who gets what office and etc.etc. while I worked.

Everytime I came back to work I had a new title, or job description, or boss, or something.

People can't function in a work environment like that. I felt like I didn't even know what my job was anymore and even when I did do what I thought I was supposed to it always ended up being wrong.

So yes, I was negative. I was jealous because I saw everyone else getting team lead promotions and titles and whatever. And all I got was getting constantly told that everything I was doing was wrong.

So if you want positive attitude you have to consider morale. If you're going to tell someone in the group how fabulous and amazing they are ALL the time. Tell other people.

It's like watching a mother play favorites with her kids. It sucks, (former boss).

I don't want this to be a back and forth point proving match. I've said what I've had to say. Take it how you will. But this is the last you'll ever hear from me or Loren.

If you respond. I will delete it. I just wanted you to hear it straight from the horse's mouth, the decision you made flat out sucked.

And yes. In response to your question that you asked Loren. It would have been better to wait after the holidays.

Because I don't think its fair for another person to have their holidays ruined.

- Jessica.

Comments

[mydearestjoanne.livejournal.com]

girl, im so sorry all this happened. but, you did write a kick ass rebuttal!

[kittyofthesea.livejournal.com]

I second that.