Ah... but you see, sometimes the reaction to the person overwhelms the reaction to the sentiment or thought.
The point is not to get into an argument about what is who's business. The point is to get someone to listen without reacting to the personalities involved.
I would be irritated and offended if you attempted to give me relationship advice, for a number of reasons I won't go into here. However, an anon comment removes the personality clash from the equation and forces me to look at the concepts involved on their own merits. Make sense?
I learned a lot about how I think when I did the "a day for anything" meme. There were a couple comments in particular that I took to mean entirely different things, depending on whom I was assuming made the comment. So.. I had to step back and look at the words, and not try to twist them into assumptions based on the supposed speaker.
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I had a conversation a while back with someone who was asked to leave a gaming group, because this person had managed to offend nearly everyone involved. "Who what and why" were not relayed to this person, the GM merely let him know he wasn't welcome back.
In the conversation with this person, it became apparent to me that while I would have been intensely bothered by not knowing the "what", he was more concerned with not knowing the "who".
I wonder if perhaps you and I share a similar disparity in points of view?
Re: Rather off topic, but I couldn't resist...
The point is not to get into an argument about what is who's business. The point is to get someone to listen without reacting to the personalities involved.
I would be irritated and offended if you attempted to give me relationship advice, for a number of reasons I won't go into here. However, an anon comment removes the personality clash from the equation and forces me to look at the concepts involved on their own merits. Make sense?
I learned a lot about how I think when I did the "a day for anything" meme. There were a couple comments in particular that I took to mean entirely different things, depending on whom I was assuming made the comment. So.. I had to step back and look at the words, and not try to twist them into assumptions based on the supposed speaker.
~*~*~
I had a conversation a while back with someone who was asked to leave a gaming group, because this person had managed to offend nearly everyone involved. "Who what and why" were not relayed to this person, the GM merely let him know he wasn't welcome back.
In the conversation with this person, it became apparent to me that while I would have been intensely bothered by not knowing the "what", he was more concerned with not knowing the "who".
I wonder if perhaps you and I share a similar disparity in points of view?